What is up babes! Guess what?!!? Tomorrow is my birthday!!!
Tomorrow I will be 34 and it’s crazy how much life has changed this past year. Year 33 has probably been one of the most soul inspiring, freeing and reflective years of my life. I went through so many changes spiritually, mentally and physically it was impossible for me not to have a transformative year.
Before we move on, I’m looking back on Year 33 and the biggest lessons I learned.
All My Single Ladies
For the first time in yeeears I was single. The time before that, my ass was 20 years old and living it up in college. So it was weird to be 33 and starting over.
When everyone was trying to get me back into the dating scene, I was more focused on being alone. I would try the online dating scene here and there, but being with someone new wasn’t my priority.
It wasn’t because I wanted back with my ex, I just wanted to truly experience life on my own. To live not having to worry about someone else, to always consider them in your plans. My only concern became me.
And it was fucking epic.
All I had to do was focus on Me, Myself and I and I embrace that shit hard.
I grew to love being single because I gained:
Freedom to be me
Do I still have moments when I miss having someone by my side, of course. But I was able to find me again and that was more important than anything else.
Soooo I was 33 and had never truly lived on my own before. The only other time was in college when I had my own dorm room, but honestly, that doesn’t count lol.
I went from my parent’s house to college back to my parents than to an apartment with my ex in his family’s home, then back to my parent’s house. Did you get all of that LOL.
This gurl was I scared AF to make that move to live alone.
It’s terrifying knowing you have no help, that you are completely on your own. There’s no one there backing you up when times are rough, it’s you.
There was a moment when I almost didn’t move out of my parent’s house. It was safer to stay then throw myself out there, but I knew I needed to do what scared me.
So, I faced my fear and got my own place. Living alone has been one of the best experiences for me. This apartment helped me figure my life out, helped me heal and now glow the AF.
Did I have some lean times? of course. Moments when I had no clue how I was going to pay my bills? Damn right I did, but I didn’t give up.
Life did get better as time went on. I started to learn how to survive on my own and love every fucking moment of it.
My biggest and favorite lesson from this past year was learning just how badass I could be. Not saying this to be cocky or conceited but there have been times when I surprised myself when I was like “damn gurl you are a bad bitch”.
I’ve been able to live on my own, drive a nice car, enjoy my life and no one made it happen but me.
During this past year, I was able to prove to myself that I could do this on my own. I could provide a nice life for myself without my ex and be content.
I snatched my power and came out on top. Ariana Granda’s song “ 7 Rings” is on repeat for me because I proved to myself if I want it I got it.
I don’t need someone to do it for me.
Every single lesson, big or small was exactly what I needed to grow. Instead of looking at what I didn’t have or what could be better I just focused on making each day better than the last.
And that’s exactly how life should be lived.
So cheers to year 34! Let’s do the damn thing!
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